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janellefletcher

Feb 11
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My first ever tattoo

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Big news. I am getting a tattoo.  Actually no, it’s not me, it’s my gorgeous man that is getting one this afternoon to celebrate his new residency and new beginnings in New Zealand.  I am excited for him!  This has got me thinking today that whether we have a visible tattoo on our skin or not, we all wear “images” of who we are and what we show as our identity, which people notice in us.

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Think about it.  If you have no confidence in yourself, people see that “tattoo”.  It could take the form of not turning up to activities, not venturing further in business, not taking any steps out of your comfort zone…….or it could even take the form of playing “class clown”, loner or victim that attracts different attention.  Could there be such a thing as a “tattoo of overweightness” that may be hiding the inner emotional and soul trauma you are experiencing?  How about the “tattoo of perfectionism” and living up to others’ expectations of who you think you need to be to be accepted and acceptable?  There is nothing more soul destroying than trying to be someone you aren’t.  I know, for me, I wore a “tattoo of got-it-togetherness” with a smile on my face for many years, that looked like I had everything sussed and under control, when quietly I was living the misery of self-loathing, body hatred and depression.  How about our belief about ourselves that don’t present a Divine image of who we are – as someone special, important, capable, intelligent, wise, loving…?  What does that tattoo look like?

My reflection today will be this (and perhaps it might be something you also want to consider)

If I were to really choose that I am a beautiful person and that I am perfect just the way I am, how would I be presenting myself in the world – internally as well as out there in the world?  What would I be thinking, saying and doing differently?

My tattoo is revealed in the photo – in that I choose self love daily and am committed to that for the rest of my “breaths”.  That spills over into everything I think, say and participate in. It supports my choices in what I nourish myself with, how I dress and the people I hang out with.  It oozes into the way I hold myself, the energy I choose to generate and the way I move. It continues to move me in directions that scare me sometimes, but that I know I am here on this planet for.  It helps me determine what is acceptable and not acceptable within my relationships.

Take one step today to present yourself with your real  image/tattoo and I would love to receive your comments below re the one thing you will be doing differently today towards that step of revealing more of the real YOU.

Jan 29
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Life changes that open the door to us loving our body and life more

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Many of us don’t like the changes that occur in our body when life changes something.

ImageConsider the woman who loses a breast through mastectomy – not a body change she was counting on, yet for many this opens the doors to new avenues of people, social events, and health and nutrition choices they may not have been exposed to otherwise. The changes that occur in pregnancy – yes inevitable, but how comfortable is that for women when their body changes shape, form and weight to encompass a growing individual? Some women welcome that change, but would squirm at a 2kg weight gain due to holiday pleasure and indulgence. I think of one of my daughters who sustained a spinal injury at age 4 and is now 27, who has gone through many body changes and transitions as growing young women do, but with the added challenge of being in her chair and knowing full well what it is like to still go into the child’s section of a store to find trousers that fit her thin legs or little feet. Yet equally she “sports” a fabulous pair of biceps and triceps!  She is gorgeous. I have noticed, following viewing some recent holiday pics, that I am also “wearing” more wrinklesor what I like to call “wisdom lines”!  My joints are showing twinges of “aching and are also showing me that my body is changing. This is reigniting my desire for yoga and walking. How is it for women going through menopause to feel the fire of flushes and the ups and downs of those changes?  The end of child-bearing years however also can be a welcoming rite of passage into the wisdom of maturity and new opportunities that may open up because they may finally make time for themselves over and above family and/or spouse.  I was also inspired recently by the news of a woman I know who has a very high level spinal injury and who completed a 1000km trek in a hand-cycle culminating in reaching base camp of Mt. Everest.  The motivation for her to have “conquered” such a feat has sprung no doubt, only through her original accident and “body change” that has been given the opportunity to morph into an “extraordinary ability.” and this feat is something which she may not have aspired to if she had been living life in her body pre-accident.

When we begin to stop our judgement, angst, frustration, anger….or whatever … when life changes our perception and love for our body, and when we begin to see this simply as a transition allowing us to choose LOVE for ourselves and our body more fully……then we can actually be in a place of peace and calm. When we see change as an opening door of possibility, rather than a prison door closing us in, then we can also feel more comfortable in our skin as we transition.  Change doesn’t have to restrict us. Change, by the essence of the word itself, can mean growth, freedom and new opportunities.

Jan 23

Perfect as you are in all of your unique colour and glory

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Perfect as you are in all of your unique colour and glory

Have a POD – Point Of Difference, rather than trying to be yet another green pea, which is very boring and takes a lot of effort. Just be happy expressing the beautiful colourful pea you are. Each colour in its purest and unique form is needed to create the spectrum of light. So too it is with people. We need all sorts, with all of their colourful personalities, looks and capabilities to live, learn, grow and find harmony. You are perfect as you are and you would do others and yourself a disfavour to be different to who you REALLY are. How are you different and unique? How can you love that in you?

Jan 22
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Lighten up and get things moving – how to feel lighter…and delighted at the same time

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Feeling heavy?  Not just on the scales I mean,but also heavy full stop – stuck, bogged down, noose around the neck, pit in your stomach type stuff, going no-where or same-old, same-old scenario?

Are you wanting to feel lighter – more free, going somewhere, energetic, light in your step, freer in your body, less weight on your mind….?

Here’s something to think about   DePRESSion, in the very essence of the word – means PRESSed down.  That feeling of heaviness and dross that we sometimes feel.  DeLIGHT however, has a very different feel.  When I am delighted, my smile goes up, I feel lighter in my body, I feel freer, I feel uplifted.

smile of a little girl  So how can I change that heavy, sometimes dePRESSed feeling into deLIGHT – full – ness.  Fill up with things that delight you and delete other heavy things.  What things can be heavy – people can!  People, for example, who are always complaining, whinging and talking in the doldrums.  Stop associating with them and/or stop indulging in such heavy conversations.  Activities can be heavy when you do them out of obligation and guilt. Start saying “no” to things that actually don[‘t fill your soul and deLIGHT you.  Start instead by nourishing yourself daily with activities and events that put a spring in your step.

Feel lighter by delighting in energising food – not just food that will fill you and perhaps bog you down. Typically the more alkaline type fruit and veges make us feel lighter and more energised versus stodgy carbs.  I am not suggesting you start judging food and restricting, denying and all of the rest. I am simply suggesting to start your day asking your body for what it needs to feel nourished, energised and lighter and to align your choices with that.  Also find pleasure in eating – not just as a means to an end, but enjoying the lightness that can come from enjoying the cooking experience or round the table social experience, or even the going out to a beautiful restaurant experience with great friends.

Lighten up on your judgement words – especially about your self, your body and your life.  Choose to focus on the good things and speak accordingly.  That will lighten everyone’s day!

Indulge in your creativity (again) or find new avenues for your creativity – music, language, arts, sculpting, speaking, building…whatever it is you LOVe. There is nothing more uplifting than being in creative flow. Flow – more literally in terms of flow of nutrients through our body – assimilation, digestion and elimination – is also great for reducing our heaviness/weight…..because quite frankly, stagnancy stinks, blocks us up and makes us feel heavier.  De”LIGHTen up” and get things moving!

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Jan 20
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Soul nourishing with the right exercise, not the wrong exercise

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Recently in my women’s group, we looked at our wants, desires and urges for 2014. We termed it Soul Nourishment and looked at activities, rituals, people, events, things…..that help nourish us and make us feel REALLY good, at peace, nourished, filled up – or I like to call it “fulfilled up”.  (PS. When we fulfill ourselves us with such soul nourishment, we don[‘t have to fill up with things from the fridge!)

We reminded ourselves that  life changes, our situation changes and our body’s, heart’s and soul’s needs change so we need to align and resonate and activate those urges. Sitting quietly and connecting with our Divine perspective, we asked our heart, body and soul what it wanted….and asked for specifics.

For me one was exercise – not unusual at all for me, but what was interesting, was that my body was asking for more regular exercise that makes me sweat. Yes I walk and have done so for some time, but not generally to the degree of a good hard sweat.   I immediately thought perhaps I was being asked to run – which actually doesn’t “rock my boat”, so I was surprised this morning when I got out my yoga DVD’s after a year of absence in my life, that I burst out in a hot sweat – which actually felt more like a hot, blissful flush and calmed me.  this is what I will now focus on and enjoy. Exercise does not need to be vigorous.  What is more important it to find what resonates and brings you the feelings and experiences that fill your soul.

In the past too, my body has wanted calming exercise walking the beaches. This time my soul was asking me to venture out in my walking to other places away from where I was beginning to feel bored, disconnected and unmotivated. I am committed now to finding new tracks, new pathways and new avenues to place my feet.

I feel the urge to exercise more often now with others as my exercise in the past year had been quite an isolated affair, which had its purpose, but kept me away from the intimacy and relationship with others. I will now call a friend more regularly to enjoy with me my “sweat-inducing”, “different landscapes”, “connecting-with-people” form of moving my body!

What else was on my Soul nourishment menu?  Language – more French….basking in the charm, ambience and french-speaking arena. More wholesome cooking – learning about, and using more ingredients I am unfamiliar with and cooking with my man more often – having it not just as a cooking and eating experience, but as a “relationship” developer too.  The continued “feel-good” factor of my charity contribution…..and many other things.

What will be on your Soul Nourishment menu this year?  Be in touch through my someBODY BEAUTIFUL community on facebook if you want some help with that or through my website www.janellefletcher.com .

Jan 06
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Knowing how great we are opens the doors to a great 2014

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We cannot imagine great possibilities and manifest an abundance of things in bucket loads opening up in our lives (rather than teaspoonfuls that we often ask for!)  till we really have the image of ourselves that is one of GREATNESS, MARVELLOUSNESS, BEAUTY, DESERVINGNESS and a DIVINE PERSPECTIVE of who we are.  I call this Source Perspective, rather than Self Perspective that is often judgemental, critical and an un-abundant being-ness..  “Source” for you might mean your own divininity. It may mean God.  It might mean the perspective of a soul who has loved you who has passed.  It could even be your angel(s). It could be the essence of your soul speaking it’s truth.  The way to access this Source perspective is to be silent and listen. Yesterday with an extraordinary group of women, we did just this.  We sat is stillness and in silence.  We focussed and connected with our Source – for many this was someone special to them who had passed,  We played the fabulous version of “You are so beautiful” by Joe Cocker and we sat and received messages, words and images from our loved ones that reminded us of the greatness of who we are, the potential within us and the possibilities that are open to us in 2014.,  We were inevitably moved to tears by the profoundness of this experience in the knowing that we are being looked after in 2014.  It helped us access our soul desires for this year, not just make mind-based resolutions to work at!  It reminded us we are not alone in the journey of this year to come. Our access point to having a great year ahead is in our silent space and connection to our Source.  We need not worry, but instead be open to being lead to the places, activities and people that will further our growth, and us to them.

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Jan 01
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Outrageous Possibilities rather than New Year’s resolutions

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I don’t make New Year’s resolutions.  Goals are also not really my thing either as often we give up half way through and then feel a failure.  Instead, at the beginning of each New Year and regularly throughout the year, I add to my OUTRAGEOUS POSSIBILITIES list.  To write this I sit quietly in a place that I love and feel comfortable in, listen to myself breathe, focus on my heart and ask out loud, “What outrageous possibilities are open to me this year?”
blue heartInstead of listening to my mind, I listen to whatever comes into my awareness.  Sometimes very tangible things arrive.  Sometimes, very random things arrive.  Sometimes little things pop in.  Other times seemingly impossible things come.  I judge nothing, but write everything.  Sometimes it is an activity, event or situation that I write down. Other times it is people, known or unknown who I might meet. It may also be a quality or value that I will focus on throughout the year.

These OUTRAGEOUS POSSIBILITIES become my focus for the year, not as a tick off box, but more as an observation post.   It is not about focussing on the “goal”, the prize or the outcome, it is about simply noticing what is attracted into my life.  It is not about judging it as good, bad, right, wrong or something else.  It is about knowing that when I come from this heart and soul space, rather than a goal-orientated mind/head space….that I feel nourished at a soul level, that I feel at peace no matter whether a “goal” has been accomplished or not, and feel reassured that life is perfect just as it is in what it is providing me and what I am offering life itself.[polldaddy poll=7683275]

Jan 01
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New Years’ resolutions

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It’s year of the horse?  What are you plans for this year?

As a year of the horse-born, I am excited about the ride this year (2014) where we will lead in new directions, canter in others, gallop to great places and trot in the arena of our passion.

What new arenas do you want to play in this year – perhaps ones that you’ve never tried out before? This year, for example, I want to reignite my piano playing ability that I have let go of for years now.  How about you?   Let me know with a comment.Image