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Sep 29

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Why dealing with conflict is easy for someBODY BEAUTIFUL

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Many people find it difficult to be the one that “rocks the boat”, creates some waves or perhaps even causes a storm. Why? It is not because they don’t have an opinion or something they hold as important, valid or needed to be said. It is more often that they don’t want to appear unkind, uncaring or disapproved of. They value others’ approval, more than their own honest self expression. Picture this.

A mother wants to get her kids to clean up after themselves, but she ends up doing it for them and then feels resentful, if not outraged. She huffs around the house, rather than saying something.
An adult child returns to the nest, but doesn’t really pay his/her way. The parent feels taken for granted but feels scared to address the issue.
Something happens at work and everyone keeps tight-lipped or scared to speak up for fear of losing their job or being treated unfairly.
A woman does not like how she is being treated in her relationship, but she continues to tolerate such behaviour in fear that her response will cause a reaction.
Someone goes along with what the mainstream do, but quietly and intuitively they know better.

someBODY BEAUTIFUL in contrast,

comes from a place of self approval, rather than trusting someone else’s appraisal of them.
values honest self-expression because she is committed to fully being herself.
knows her own needs, desires and pleasures and has those on the top of her priority list so her “tank is full”. No-one can take things from her “fullness”.
knows she has something to on-offer others by sharing what is important to her. Her “making waves’ might create needed change inter-personally and also in the world around her.
speaks her truth because that is more important for her health and well-being than hiding or suppressing her ideas. She speaks intentionally, not reactively.
has compassion for others, but doesn’t molly-coddle, play martyr, victim or other disempowered roles, and she desires that others be the best they can be as well.
knows that other people’s behaviour and actions have nothing to do with her so she doesn’t take their reaction personally.
practices excellent self care.
practices so much self love that even if the harshest of stones are thrown at her, she will not die in the process.

Here’s to actively creating some waves, to create some inner peace and change our world.

Sep 22

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Is life too hectic? 5 ways to find your own rhythm in life

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A real party stopper is when someone asks you what you have done this week and your answer is “Not much!” Why is it that we measure our success on how busy we are, how much we get done and whether or how fast we are climbing our own “personal ladder of success”? Yet many people are feeling stressed, over-committed or exhausted, in need of a jolly good holiday and actually wishing they had less in their diary, rather than more. Our bodies too are taking the toll of constant, what I call “straight line pressure” rather than allowing some fluctuation and therefore balance in our lives.

There’s no incoming tide without an outgoing tide. There’s no new moon without a full moon. There’s no night without a day. We simply need to learn to find our natural rhythms again. Here are some tips for finding a rhythm that suits you. A masculine way of being is straight line stuff. Achieve, work hard, plan those goals and go headstrong to reach them. Work out a plan and commit to A + B = C. Put in the hours. Stick to your responsibilities and make sure you have something to tell someone when they ask “What have you been doing this week?”

A feminine (more in rhythm) way of being might look more like this.

Have an intention and ask for directions and signs to get you where you want to be. Listen to your intuition to guide you what to do, when to do it and how. It will also tell you “what not to do.” You will save a lot of time and energy this way.
Rest time (or “still time”) allows our creativity to flow better. 10 minutes away from “work” and responsibilities can save you hours. It also allows your body to rest and therefore resume better health and healing ability, not to mention more mental clarity and focus.
Ditch some responsibilities you have assumed because you either want to “busy up your life” or feel like you have to do them for some reason. Start saying “no” more often to stuff that actually doesn’t light your boat. Someone else will be in the wings to step up into that role.
Use the natural cycles of life to guide you when to act and when to rest. Your menstrual cycle is perfect with the first half being a very outward, energized, “get stuff done” focus versus the second half of your cycle being one that is more inward, reflective and more of a planning phase. Use winter to rest, recover, recuperate and put “fire into your belly” and use the warmer seasons to be out there doing your thing.
Spend more time “approving” of yourself versus trying to “prove yourself.” A lot of “busy-ness” is about proving yourself especially in the arena of work and family life, but if you come from a place of loving and accepting yourself as you are, you don’t need to be adding to your repertoire of “busy-ness” but will look for more ways of loving and being of service in simple ways.

Find the rhythm that pulsates within your soul.

Feeling at peace is a sure sign that you are riding the right rhythm for you.

Sep 15

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Got a secret that needs sharing?

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When we “keep a secret”, it sits within us. There are many things that can happen with this “secret”. We stuff it down with food or other substances. It weighs us down – figuratively but also sometimes literally. The secret can fester, ulcerate, spread, encapsulate, close off a body function and cause a lot of un-wellness and unhappiness within. It can also stop us in our tracks and life becomes yet another day that looks the same as yesterday. We remain stagnant, perhaps even feeling paralysed in our situation. We want to move forward. We want better things, but we are stuck. Nothing seems to change. Let’s consider this.
• What is endometriosis? Is it also an emotional scarring?
• What is infertility? Is it a closing-down of your sexuality when you have been hurt?
• What is anorexia? Is it hiding within your body and feeling insignificant?
• What is bulimia or overeating? Is it the stuffing down of pain or trauma?
• What is a tumour, cyst, growth? Is it a collection of pent-up angst, anger, betrayal….?
• What is miscarriage? Is there a sense of not deserving or a pattern of abandonment?
• What is sexual “frigidity”? Is it that we are frozen in the abuse of the past?
• What is a headache? Is it that we no longer want to face the “headaches” of the world?
• What is an infection, outbreak or melt down? Is it a secret festering within us?
• What is lack of confidence, courage or self-esteem? There is probably a secret underneath.

As women, we go through many changes, transitions, grief, trauma, losses and challenges in our lives. We have also been taught to put on our mask of confidence or “got it together-ness”, which sometimes means we don’t share our “secrets” or our vulnerability. The sharing of our secrets is not about becoming “victim” or reliving old stuff. It is sometimes not the “WHAT” of what happened, but the story we have made up about ourselves, our bodies, our life or our potential for better things. It is about letting go of the secret’s attachment, its tendrils, its roots, its spread…within our body and within our energetic field. Sharing the secret is about letting go, releasing, cleaning up, lightening up and living more freely in all aspects of our lives and finally allowing better and brighter experiences into our lives. Sit quietly and ask what your soul is telling you in terms of…
1. …what secret(s) to share. – No “secret” is too small or insignificant, too big or overpowering. This secret is often about a feeling of shame, humiliation, betrayal, abuse, trauma, bullying, disappointment, embarrassment…often related to our identity, our trust in ourselves and our bodies or in our sense of self-esteem, confidence and self-worth.
2. …where does the secret sit in your body?
3. …who to share it with. – This could be someone who is alive, or someone in soul.
4. …how? Sit intuitively and feel into the “HOW” you will share your secret.

Why don’t you write down all of your “secrets” that come into your awareness? Put them on individual pieces of paper and find a box to keep them in as a symbol of where you have kept them hiding to date. As you reveal or share each secret over the coming days, weeks, years…throw away or burn the paper and find a lovely ritual to unleash yourself from how that secret has had a hold on you.
Share your secret in a sacred way Rituals are a lovely sacred way to share your secret and to allow healing. Here are a few examples particularly focused on sharing your secret through body rituals.
• Body exfoliation / scrub / all over pamper
• Gentle massage of a particular part of your body that feels “impacted”
• Images / drawings/words on your body then rubbing off the “old stuff”
• Breathe out the secret and breathe in new love
• Release the secret down the plughole of the shower as you cleanse your body
• Punching bag
• Strenuous exercise
• Swim in the ocean “washing” off the secret
• Singing the secret or shouting it off a mountain, rooftop or somewhere that is important
• Walk in nature leaving the “trail of the secret” behind
• Sit at someone’s grave and talk to them
• Throw away some clothes that represent the “old story” and replace them with new ones
• Write the secret in the sand and then watch the waves wash over it
• Detox – perhaps with juices, non-alcohol days…
• Sunbathe naked quietly revealing layers of pain, shame and vulnerability and soak in the “warm sun of love”
• Sit in stillness with a candle and then blow out the candle signifying the end of that secret or old story about yourself
• Dance out the secret
• Feminine flush – this is a ritual where you energetically cut the cords to people, events, relationships…and ask for there to be an energetic flushing out of your body through its natural means
• Use pads instead of tampons this month as you menstruate
• Enjoy the smell of incense or “smudging stick” to clear the air of the environment you wish to clear
• Create other body or sacred rituals of your own
Go well as you share your secret in your own sacred way. And remember I am here for you if you would like to “share” your secret and experience the cutting loose of its hold, so you can fly again! And why don’t you also contact me with some of your own wisdom and rituals about “sharing the secret” that we can on-pass to other women? Let’s support each other in our healing, health and happiness. www.janellefletcher.com

Sep 08

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Are you superwoman doing WE time, more than ME time?

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Imagine if having “me time” were the “cure-all” for your health, women’s issues, sanity, family life, relationships and even your career. In fact, the more I think about this notion, the more excited I am about that “cure-all” possibility!

The problem is many women struggle with taking “me time” because they consider it selfish, the kids or family needs are “more important”, they would feel embarrassed or uncomfortable saying that they had some time off rather than basking in the admiration of others for being “really busy,” or they are simply ingrained in the habit of prioritising work or “other jobs” before “a life”. Here are a few “me time” thoughts, which for me too are a new concept having played, and sometimes still do, superwoman doing WE time, more than ME time.

Our physical energy is being stretched more and more. “Me time” will re-energise you!
Resentment and regret are two key emotions that women feel when playing “super-woman”. We are not fun to be around when we are in these emotional states! And if we hide these emotions (which we often do!) this starts to show up in other ways. eg. relationship tension, family disharmony, depression, lack of creativity…
Intimacy within a partnership requires two people to “turn up”. “Me time” allows you to be more fully present and desiring such warmth, affection and sex, rather than running for cover to “catch your breath” on life.
We aren’t doing our kids (and others) a favour when we “spoil them” or “drop everything” and attend to their situation now as if it were an emergency. When we took on being a mother, lover or girl-Friday, we didn’t sign an agreement that says we forsake all! Sometimes we just simply have to say “no” and put a zip on our mouths!
We complain that others are “taking us for granted” or asking too much of us, or that we constantly feel tired or have no time for ourselves. We, in fact, teach others how to treat us. When we continue to put others’ needs first, that becomes the norm. Change this norm to honouring YOUR time and YOUR needs, as much as you do theirs. You will be a much better parent, lover, worker…
Selfish is not the same as self-giving. Self-giving honours everyone.
Women’s health issues come from not honouring the natural curves and fluctuations of our menstrual cycle, which teaches us there are times to be out there doing, creating, socialising or being active in a cause, versus the second part of our cycle which asks us to rest more, recover, re-breathe, re-vitalise, re-store, re-generate and be more emotional! Both can be “me time”, but they must be in balance.
Many women go on a retreat once a year or do the “odd pamper day with the girlfriends” now and then. This is not “me time.” “Me time”, needs to be a way of living, much like we learn in our someBODY BEAUTIFUL way of living retreat.

So today I take a leaf out of my partner’s book – a man who is teaching me to honour me, my needs and my time more fully. On his t-shirt it says this. “I give 110% everyday. 10% to others. 100% to myself.”

Which of the above points did you most like or relate to? Leave your valuable comment below.

Aug 31

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The beauty of “break-outs” & “melt-downs” in your body

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Breaking out in rashes, pimples or other irritations, fire-ing up inside with menopausal symptoms, itching, diarrhoea-ing, redness, throbbing, vomiting…or perhaps having a melt-down with other explosive body symptoms? What is your body doing that screams “outbreak”, “I’ve had enough”, or “I don’t like this situation any longer”?

Most people are ingrained into the thinking that such physical “outbreaks” are bad and should be medicated, treated, covered up and generally not tolerated.

Yes these “symptoms”, as a doctor or health practitioner would describe them, can be fairly annoying. How about we see them as simply telling us a “story” and a reminder of what is no longer in balance in our lives and body, what situation is no longer satisfactory, or even what simply needs clearing – and therefore be grateful for that reminder and allow it to be.

* Outbreaks generally have an underlying emotion. What is that emotion when you sit quietly with what is occurring within your body? Anger? Annoyance? Betrayal? Discontentment? Lack of creativity? How can you positively use that emotion to change your situation?

* What is the story, or belief, you are telling yourself about the situation that springs to mind or the person who comes into your awareness? Perhaps that story is not the “truth” and you need to rewrite it.

* The beauty is that we can actually allow that situation, emotion, reaction to a person or “outbreak / melt-down” experience to be cleared through the natural functions of our body – breathing, perspiration, menstruation, elimination…and then be grateful for what toxic stuff our body is releasing and the new space it is creating for good things to come into our lives. Learn to also love menstruation, our cyclical nature and menopause because they naturally help us “burn off” what is no longer needed, and “grow” stuff we do desire.

* Begin to “soothe” your body with more soul-nourishing activities, people, occasions, body rituals, music, nature, movement, prayer, pampering… We often focus on what is “wrong” in our bodies, so begin the practice of noticing when that “outbreak” is calmed and what has created that quieter, happier and more contented space, and practice more of that!

And with today being the first day of spring in the Southern Hemisphere, may our bodies be “spring cleaned”, soothed and re-vitalised, and in the Northern Hemisphere, may there be a shedding of what is no longer needed or wanted.”

Aug 25

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Stop holding your breath for something “better” in your life

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I’ll catch my breath, when I finally get that stuff sorted.” was what I heard the woman say. My response was how about she “breathe first, then the things will get sorted?” As woman, we are so busy charging around, madly busy, trying to sort out things in life, as if A + B = C. We try and work out a solution, a way, or something that will at least help us towards our desired state of happiness, health, relationship, family relations, work or whatever. We micro-manage, and in the meantime we literally forget to breathe and “smell the roses” and we miss our chance of life sign-posting us and making our life easier -sans le stress. (without the stress)

Holding our breath for something better down the track,

we miss or ignore the good things that are happening already. We let the already good things happening in our life pass us by. In fact we are blind to them. How about seeing your life, as it is today, as “good” (or perhaps even great) already?
keeps us “doing stuff on our own” as if we alone can change the world and “control” our situation. The reality is when we still ourselves and breathe and follow the lead of signs and synchronicities, our “stuff” is managed effectively for us! We are also not alone, when we let the stillness of our soul lead us. We are accompanied in life!
we set ourselves up for un-wellness. When we do not breathe well, we get headaches, lethargy, panic, stress symptoms and loads of other maladies. Breathing well from a still, quiet space could, I believe, create healing miracles in your health – not just because of the physical benefits, but because of the soul/spiritual benefits.
we deny our intuition to “flow”. Another word for “to breathe” is to inspire – literally and figuratively. Our intuition is literally inspiration for how to live life very easily, almost without effort. If we followed this, versus the bending and manouvering of our mind, we would already be in a far “better” situation in our life without the need to worry.
stops us from realising how amazing we are already and I like the words of Sylvia Plath from the Bell Jar – “I took a deep breath and listened to the old brag of my heart. I am, I am, I am.”

Living a full-breathed, intuitive, inspired life can make your life “great” now. Start consciously breathing again. Take time each day to be still. Let peace be in your life, from the inspiration of breath. www.janellefletcher.com

Aug 21

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Mirror, Mirror on the Wall, Who is the fairest of us all?

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Many women have a distorted image of who they think they are, how their bodies are and what their life’s challenges look like. Perhaps, as a woman, YOU are looking in mirrors such as these.

The magnified mirror is where you see every blemish, scar, pimple, bulge…as something far huger than the reality. You see life’s problems as insurmountable. You view the size of your body in unreal proportions. Your language is something like this. “I am too ugly, too fat, too unhealthy, too old or too whatever…”

The minimised mirror is where you feel invisible, unnoticed, and not enough. It’s the epitomy of the Tall poppy sydrome where women dare not “upsell” themselves. Words like “I am just…..” come out of your mouth with ease. eg. I am just a mother. I am just the wife of…..” Alongside of that comes the “not” word followed by “enough”. “I am not talented enough. I don’t have enough money. My boobs are not big enough”, and on it goes. You give your power away to others because you don’t feel empowered or confident enough to take on the responsibility.

Then there is the comparison mirror – or what I call the somebody else’s mirror. This is where you compare yourself – your talents, skills, body, life….with others. It’s where you “maximise” others and “minimise” yourself. You compare yourself, your body and your life to what the media tells you is “ideal”.

And how about the broken mirror where your life reflects the distorted story or mirror that says you are “broken” from trauma, grief, loss, shame and other events such as abuse of any kind, molestation, down-putting… It is easy to stay victim whilst looking in this mirror. It is easy to feel unable to to change the situation. It is easy to feel depressed, paralysed (or at least stuck) in your situation. It is easy to fear what it would take to be a confident, passionate and beautiful women, because that would require different things of you.

So yes, it’s time ladies that we stop looking at distorted images of ourselves, and start looking at ones that truly reflect back our truest nature – that we are gorgeous, talented and in fact brilliant as the beautiful Marianne Williamson and Nelson Mandela have quoted. “Who am I to be brilliant? Who am I not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world…”

So here are just a few ways to see a truer reflection of who you truly are.

Start approving of yourself, rather than trying to prove yourself constantly. Just be you, with who you are today.
Have a point of difference (POD) by honouring your unique life lessons, inner gifts, values, skills, beauty…rather than trying to be a clone (pea in a POD) of someone else or someone’s version of who they think you should be.
Use only self-honouring words.
Get to the core of the “story” you have created about yourself. Unravel the “what happened” and “what did I make that mean about me, my body and my life?” Stick to the facts, and not necessarily the story you created. Rewrite that story if it is not self-loving.
Practice body gratitude by finding things to be grateful to your body for, including the way it has healed, recuperated, detoxed, grown, recovered and re-energised…itself.
Look at your internal treasures, not your external measures. eg. numbers on the scale, in your pay packet or numbers of “world experiences” you have had. Mirrors only see the outside. Focus on the treasures within and who you are as a “whole person”. Your rriends and family will be talking about who you are at your funeral, not the size of your waistline, pay packet or numbers of whatever you think might make you more desirable, liked or successful.
See a source perspective of how marvellous, beautiful and successful you really are. This is Spirit, God, the universe, your inner marvellousness or perhaps someone in soul / spirit (passed on) who thought you were the “bees knees” and who has faith that you can surmount any “obstacle” in life and have a richer, more fulfilling life than what you are presently experiencing.

“Mirror, mirror on the wall who is the fairest of us all?”

We all are, but you will only get this by looking at the correct reflection of who you are. The unexpected joy of this is when your life starts reflecting that new image of you, more positive things begin to appear in your life.

Aug 10

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You are not forgotten, even when you feel unnoticed or insignificant

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Ever feel that people don’t notice what a a great woman, mother, wife, partner, daughter, worker, …you are? Ever since I was a child, and even before I knew where Africa was, my heart wanted to go to Africa to be with the orphans. Later I sponsored a young girl, and wrote regularly to her in Uganda. I was never sure what called me in this way, but I realise now it about the “forgotten” child – one who feels left, who feels abandoned, who feels insignificant, who feels perhaps worthless and perhaps even feels invisible.

Looking back on my life, invisibility has been one of my life themes. I excelled at many things, but probably as a means of trying to be noticed. I kept under the radar, not daring to leave the restraints of the rules of my very Christian parents. I became very independent at an early age, preferring also to see much of the world, and experience what the world offered me, on my own. I largely kept my “problems” to myself and found my own answers. . To the outside world I seemed happy and I was accoladed with prizes for various things. I was in a caring family who noticed and served others. People saw me as a confident, daring young woman. but in my inner self I felt lost, abandoned, different and often invisible.

Just last week I noticed a street sign promoting the Watoto (Ugandan) village choir, so I could not help but go. I cried, I cried and I cried some more at their stories of these orphans and the aloneness they felt, the experiences they had had, but now the joy in their eyes and the lightness and vitality in their dancing feet and bodies that jumped in the joy of feeling included, secure and protected and given opportunities at the village that had included them as their own. With loud gusto, they sang “I am not forgotten.” Listen to it!

It reminded me that my life story was false. My life theme was just a perspective that I chose to hang on to. It reminds me that when I choose the perspective of non-attachment to acknowledgement, accolade and inclusion, and I choose to see myself as visible, powerful, approachable, loveable, worthy, gifted and beauty-full, my life is good. I am not forgotten. I just forgot myself for awhile, and sometimes still do now and then!

Jul 29

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Why I am lusting after “baby pink.” Honour your lust for colour!

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Lately I have been lusting after “baby pink”. This is not a common occurrence for me, but it’s a colour that my body has been “desiring” lately. It reminds me of years ago when I met a colour energy consultant – not about whether I am a spring, winter, autumn or summer colour person, but more about the energy of the colour and what that could do for me.

The consultation was such, that I wrote down what colours I wore, what ones I didn’t, how often I wore them, when I started wearing them and when I stopped wearing them. To my amazement, the consultant looked at the patterns of my colour choices, and started telling me about my life – in quite vivid detail ….and accurately I must say! She then went on to recommend 2 colours that I could begin to wear and integrate into my life. One was baby pink. I wanted to physically vomit! I don’t know how you can NOT PHYSICALLY vomit, but what I am saying, is that my body had huge resistance to this. I have 4 daughters – each of whom I had never dressed in baby pink. I have never worn that colour in my life and that colour had never appealed to me at all.

BUT…when the consultant started to explain the energy of the colour and the reason for it, I got it! It is about soft compassion and less of the direct and “harder” love and compassion I was giving. It is about the feminine, more intuitive way of being versus the driving and striving. It is not about the proving of myself which I was doing, but the approving of myself which I was not doing. It is about self validation, rather than seeking that in action, goals and external success. It is about the mother-daughter relationship which I was struggling with a little, not knowing why I was pouring out love in a way that my daughters were not noticing or feeling loved by. It is about addressing my distant relationship with my own mother. I got this.

Hence I went out shopping and amidst my continual want to vomit, I finally found something that I could wear in “baby pink”…and I noticed something. Softer communication. A gentler way of being. A more intuitive way of living, rather than micro-managing and force-feeding the direction of my life. My relationship improved with my girls, because I consciously and probably sub-consciously chose a way that was less domineering, controlling, direct and confronting, to one that was more inclusive, considerate and gentler. I am incredibly grateful for these insights and new actions.

So interesting that this week I have been lusting after “baby pink”. It is a reminder for me to reignite and renourish myself in this “energy” and “way of being.” In seeking something in the shops – be it sweatshirt, scarf or pullover, I found nothing…..until today….I found it! Perfect….lingerie in baby pink and beautiful feminine floral, lacy and textured underwear to match – all for an incredible bargain I can hardly tell you about because of my excitement. I can’t wait to wear them and indulge myself in this colour and its effects!

What colour is your body lusting after today? Honour that lust.

Jul 21

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3 ways we actually say “no” to improved self-esteem & body confidence

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The outside world – media, diet, beauty, gym, fashion and other industries tell us how to be “confident, sexy, successful, desirable…” They want us to “buy into” that negative stuff. But how often is the “outside world” actually telling us how amazing we and our bodies are, but we ignore, fob off or negate that message completely? Here are 3 ways we actually rob ourselves of improved confidence, self-esteem and that “I feel powerful in my body” feeling.

1. Someone pays us a compliment and we fob it off by refusing it, saying “no, that’s not true”, returning a similar compliment (which actually belittles what has been said to you!), or sidetracking and talking about where we bought the dress, got our hair cut or something else that sidesweeps how gorgeous or amazing YOU are. Start hearing and accepting compliments with a simple “thank you”.

2. We pay so much attention on our “goals” – be it goal weight, goal workout regime, goal “man or woman in our life”, goal dress size, goal achievement…which can often make us feel less successful, beautiful, sexy… if we “don’t achieve it”. Often our friends, family or others are encouraging us and praising us for the gradual steps we are taking…but we are deaf to that because only the “success of the goal” will be good enough. Open your ears (and heart) to the gentle encouragement about your progress and efforts and breakthroughs along the way.

3. We see “sickness” as bad. I prefer to honour that an outward sign of “sickness” means something is not OK internally – be it over-doing things, not honouring what I value, unexpressed emotions, unforgiveness, poor nourishment…. I don’t see it as sickness, so much as my body getting rid of “stuff” it doesn’t need or reminding me of what it does need. Start listening to your body’s external cues of “sickness” or health problems, to help you internally do the work you need to do. When you sit still, listen and ask your body for some answers, it will provide them!.

Here are 3 great questions to ask yourself today.

1. What compliment did I receive today? Yes there will be something – whether said or unsaid, verbal or written, by someone else or yourself, or spoken through an intuitive message?

2. What encouragement did I give myself today for steps and progress towards my goals?

3. What is my body telling me today?

Be discerning and selective of what the “outside world” tells you. Listen to the positive “voice” inside and out.