Common to women is that we all have the “I can’t wait to get out with the girls and socialise phase” and the “I want to crawl back into my bed with some chocolate” phase.
What’s this all about and how can we be OK with it?
Having recently spent 30 days writing to the phases of the moon and once again going back to natural fertility methods, I am loving what the moon can teach us women about being our most energised, productive, and creative selves without running ourselves into the ground.
To achieve this we need to
- honour both the action and reflection part of our lunar / menstrual cycle. In other words, the need for getting stuff done (GSD – some call it Get Shit Done!) AND the need for rest.
- give, give and give and be of service to others (as only us women do!), but we also need to rekindle the often neglected need and desire to receive and give to ourselves. Phase one of our cycle is give unto others. Phase two is give unto thyself!
- have the first part of our cycle where our exercise regime, eating habits and tick off lists are being followed religiously and “I’m on track”, balanced with the other phase of our cycle where listening more to our body’s rhythms, wants and needs is paramount. Sometimes that means curling up under the blankets, rather than running your 10km, or eating soul-nourishing food rather than rabbit food. And it may mean less rigid diary appointments, and more free time to create and do something that fills your soul (rather than your diary) in our second phase.
What I just noticed is that the New Moon phases for 2016 all appear towards the beginning of the month and the full moon phases towards the 20th of each month. Obviously this shifts slightly. What that can teach us is to plan our first part of each month in 2016 leading up to full moon as the getting stuff done phase, getting out there in the world, ticking off some lists, networking and you being the social bunny plus biz girl extraordinaire and whatever else you are juggling.
The second part – Full Moon onwards (in the case of 2016 – that’s the second part of the calendar month) is time to go slower, be more reflective, do some editing, be emotional and be kinder to ourselves. It’s OK to not want company. It’s OK to use this time to read, paint, recreate your stillness practice, journal, and eat chocolate. In fact towards the end of this phase it is our shedding/menstrual time – it’s the time to curl up in our red tent, nourish ourselves with some food goodness, shed our guts or our tears, heal the old emotional stuff and start the new month with a clean slate where we are feeling more energised again.
So why not give this a go this year rather than being a super-bunny on fast mode all of the time till one day your battery dies?
- Comment here on what you are going to do differently this month to feel more energised, creative and productive by including rest, retreating, chocolate and a bit more “slack” back into your life.
- And why not share this blog with one woman you care about who tends to be an over-doer, over-giver or who is simply needing time and some new ways to recharge her batteries?