I have this uncanny ability to meet soul mates. In fact I’ve met 2, perhaps even 4! But let me start with No. 1!
The day I met my first husband, I knew that I was going to marry him. Not because I was attracted to him physically or sexually, but he oozed a calmness considering his wife had just been killed and he was a beautiful dad to his 3 girls. And that first night at the Paul McCartney concert when I met him, the sky literally opened up with diamonds in the final song. “It’s him!” I heard. Weird but true. We got engaged 6 weeks later and married after 6 months.
Lesson No 1. You may not necessarily be initially attracted to your soul mate, but something within you says “YES”.
After just a few weeks of meeting my soon to be husband, his wife who had died visited me in spirit. Yes my first ever experience of that! She talked to me. I heard her well as she invited me to take on her children as my own. This felt right in my heart, so I honoured that.
Lesson No 2. You may hear something from the “divine” realm that says that you are to be with this person. The “Divine” brings messages in many ways. Perhaps you have seen this person before, noticed his name, seen a picture of him somewhere or even in a dream, or something that they say “rings a bell” or evokes a memory in you…
After a beautiful partnership and bringing 3 more children into the world, my soul started dying and I knew I had to honour that. My mind said, “Stay in the marriage” and “I can’t possible do this to my 6 kids”, but my soul knew otherwise. I left my soul mate after 14 years of marriage because I could no longer be “soul-dead”, nor could I inflict my low energy, lack of love and intimacy and such unfairness on my husband.
Lesson 3. We can also care about someone but still leave that soul mate partnership, because we care about ourselves AND them! Sometimes leaving is actually an act of love.
Let’s back up a minute. A few months before leaving my marriage, I went for healing to help me make the transition out of my marriage and “break-up” of the family easier on everyone. Fully relaxed, I saw 3 images which made my reason for being in this soul-mate partnership very apparent. The first image was of a young girl crying out “Mum, don’t leave me!” My youngest daughter who was the same age came to mind. We are very connected and perhaps she already knew something was about to occur. The second image was that of an American woman Joni Earickson- who had a spinal injury and was a fabulous singer. In fact I used to play her “Christian” songs on the piano as I was growing up. It was apparent that what was being revealed was not about my youngest daughter. It was of my second daughter who I took on as my own and who had suffered a spinal injury in the same crash. The third image was the sound and words of one of Joni’s songs which I used to play. “It is well with my soul.”
My message was there! “Janelle, you were there in that soul-partnership to bring up those 3 girls you had taken on as your own, bring them into adulthood and it is now “well with their souls”. As I left my marriage, the third of those girls chose to leave home unexpectantly, but divinely lead I believe.
Lesson 4. We are in soul-partnerships for a certain amount of time and for a certain reason. Sometimes that reason is only revealed in hindsight.
So on leaving my marriage, I was humbled to my car, my 6 kids (3 at home still) and $1000. It was the year of the recession. Single womanhood was new to me and it lasted 6 years until I found my new soul mate (or might I add that I met one in between!) That’s another story…(so keep following!). But here’s the final lesson for today.
Lesson 5. Sometimes we have to have time on our own and do the “hard yards” for our new soul mate to come in Divine timing and for the Diving reason. Learning self love (unreliant on love from someone else) in the meantime is often the “soul calling” that you need to learn. A hard lesson, but an incredibly important one. More on that later in my next blog!
If you are single (or even in a partnership, and/or perhaps even wanting to leave) and these lessons have resonated with you today, my somebody beautiful coaching and/or retreat could be something for you – because the foundations of my work with you is self love, spiritual connection, soul nourishment, listening to your body and your gut and having passion in your life….all of the juicy stuff that can bring your soul partner to you! Check out www.somebodybeautiful.com and feel free to email me at janelle@janellefletcher.com for a complimentary 20 minute skype session to get you started.