What’s your “tragedy” in your life to date and how has that created some fabulous traction for you?
No, this is not about denying you of the grief that may have come about because of your marriage split, your long-lost lover leaving you, losing the baby you wanted, being in a passion-less job, having “wayward” teens to parent or any other difficult stuff you have experienced, or are indeed smack-bang-in-the middle-of-experiencing now.
Yes it’s shitty. Yes it’s painful. And yes there are huge things to adapt to when we go through tragedy, dramas, nightmares or simple heartaches. Hindsight is a fabulous thing to see how new doors have opened for you out of that “shit”. But I reckon, not just hind-sight, but fore-sight into the future with a new lens is also great to help you gain traction (and positive new direction) through the tragedy.
Here’s a new lens to consider looking through. It comes in the form of a question.
How could this point of ‘TRAGEDY’
(a.k.a health issues, job loss, loss of baby, cancer scare, terminal illness, being jilted…(you’ll know your “tragedy”!)
be exactly the point of traction I need and deserve to head down a different and better path?
Yes you thought your destination point was where you were heading. And you thought that destination point was the right one for you, right now, with the right person in tow and the right motivation behind you. But that’s turned to custard!
But alas. Sometimes a different destination is actually the right place for you. Sometimes the traction and resources you build as a consequence of that “tragedy” is the making of you, and not the breaking of you.
Take these people as an example. Oprah came from very humble beginnings and background, and her strength of character and contribution to the world came out of the traction that came from her own personal “tragedies.”
Take the lady down the road who has cancer. That scare has given her the “wake-up call” (a.k.a point of traction) that will have her living out her days doing stuff she loves and with people she wants to spend her life with, and she’ll leave the other stuff behind that is unimportant. What a gift!
My own personal “tragedy” of infertility for many years was difficult. But it lead me down the path of natural medicine, reconnecting with my body through charting my menstrual cycle and to people and places that lead me to the work I do now. I also got the point of traction that allowed me to find my own path to conception and having my children. What a blessing my infertility was.
And hey you may be sitting there feeling stone broke because you’ve left your passion-less job and you are finally out there doing your best, trying to make ends meet while creating your new solopreneur business. Your “NO-MONEY-TRAGEDY” may be the point of traction that soars your creative juices to get you and your biz moving in ways that you couldn’t imagine! So here are a couple of useful personal mantras.
My breaking is my making.
My point of tragedy is my point of traction.
Look in hindsight at how that “tragedy” has helped you, but also look in fore-sight, not to prevent the loss and grief from overwhelming you, but as preparation and motivation to use this situation for good.
If this resonates and you are looking forward to a new direction in life after a difficult turning point/tragedy, then I would love to support you through my coaching and retreats. Why not email me for a complimentary skype session and you’ll come away with some great ideas that are actionable and life-changing. janelle@janellefletcher.com
And if you know of someone going through some heartaches, why not sure this post with them?